We have a long history with money if we sit back and realize. We never consider that as a separate story, but if you notice, it has one. Now when you think, history is in experiences, memories, and moments. Let’s call this a story of money. On retracing its history, one can know what your relationship with it was, and on similar patterns, one can forecast the future of money is your concern. But either way, if anyone had no issues with money, then that is a rare possibility of a healthy relationship with the money that had no stress levels in it!
All about the author:
This story is about the author, whose life started with the frustrations of life regarding money. Coming from a middle-class family in the suburbs of Seattle, his earning father was a teacher in the morning and a seller of the products that make extra money by the evening. While his mother, being the housewife, raised three children in the home. They lived believing in reusing the products and living life to its maximum.
He respects the time learned to work hard to earn money alongside his father as he alone himself looked after his house, yet somewhere the author felt the time and effort invested on cobbling the second had the product made him restless to settle that way.
And his story of scarcity for money started when he joined the baseball team and made it to the junior team after the tryouts. He remembers the need to wear the metal spike instead of the rubber cleats he has been wearing since joining the baseball. It was no wonder that his dad took him to the second-hand shop to buy the used ones, and indeed, the particular need was to have the black ones as that was a trend at that time. But apparently, his dad made him wear the white one by polishing it more to sparkle. Of course, the cleats kept him distracted in the field as it was humiliating.
It led him to the anxiety of having enough money in adulthood to have better things that even went to overspending. The behaviour developed conflicted with his parent’s upbringing. Lately, the thought of replacing the Ford Explorer with the newer version hit his mind as he drove it for ten years. And later thought of affording the best cars such as Mercedes and Audi. And after he decided to bring the used Mercedes from the encouragement of his wife that practically satisfied the tag and the emotional attachment to it.
As a financial advisor, the author has gained the experience of understanding how the stories of the money will explain the decisions of finance and offspring the better outcomes. It has revised his actions by mindfully altering the patterns.
The three practices:
- Go on a money date
The point here is to understand the stories of each other on the money except for the criticism. The pattern helps one to know how your finances are laid out in your life. Understand the saving, sharing, and spending habits that could make better financial decisions in life.
- Be the author of a money story.
Look into the past and forgive the people and yourself for the tragic stories and build your head around the positive ones with the thinking that generosity has as the outcome is supposed to be joyful.
- Find out answers to the questions.
Try to ask questions to oneself on how your approach to money was in your hometown. It answers your pattern on spending. Some of the acts are based on the unconscious thoughts that came to mind due to the caregivers; you might still follow or channel them. But anyhow, acknowledge them and reflect on them to make better choices and outcomes.
Final Thoughts:
Though the money story hasn’t been fascinating to all of us, it can wisely be channelized and actions controlled to bring better outcomes at each step can keep everything smoothly satisfying your needs having to less stress you.
